Sunday, November 06, 2005
Love Triangle and the DECC
Sometimes it makes me wonder why there are so many love triangles nowadays. Every now and then, I get to hear some weird love stories on YES933. It frequently speaks of a sad love story between a couple how they got together and then under certain circumstances, were not able to make it through. All these words really touch the heart but wait till you listen further and realize that the one that she loves most is actually attached or worse so, married. Then, you will be like…ok, so be it. But at the end of the story, she proudly announces that even though she knows that its not going to work out, she still pledges her love for him and that it will never change. This is the point that I felt truly disturbed.
Now and then, we see such cases all around us. I mean of course love is all about the right feelings and chemistry and stuffs like that. But seriously, if you are attached to a man or woman at the moment, will you want your partner to build up a relationship of immense feelings and chemistry with any guy or gal but not you?! That just seems politically incorrect. I believe that if a couple are so deeply in love with each other, there seem to be no reason for either one to stray because under my (DECC) Dating Ethical Code of Conduct, such behaviour is unacceptable. And I truly believe everyone should adhere to this Code of Conduct, I don’t care if you disagree because this is my territory and I’m the loudest here. If you can’t afford to even keep to this rule, you don’t deserve to be in a relationship. You are better off being single, or in an earlier entry, you are merely a player. You do not take relationships seriously, you are irresponsible and you are immature.
I guess it’s pretty hard for most guys out there because there are just far too many temptations out there and it’s hard not to grab one on impulse. But can you just control that itch and hide that beastly being in you and give it some careful thought before you make up your mind to dump your current girlfriend for this new bitch on the block? There are also guys out there who manage to break off a relationship by convincing themselves that the current girlfriend is not the one that they truly love. There is no chemistry or there is no more love between them…blah..blah..blah….all I can say is….BULLSHIT! Because about 80% or even more of the time, you were probably thinking of another girl when you made the decision. And this violates the DECC as well. Perhaps I should set a cutoff point at this time…..hmmm…how about 6 months? Thus, from now on, the rule states that once you initiate to end a relationship, you are not eligible to find another girl/guy in the next 6 months. This is to make sure that you didn’t make that decision on impulse for another girl…even if you did on impulse, you have to wait 6 months. Period.
Now, we shall move on to the external factors which cause a love triangle. We all know that sometimes it’s not the two parties that created this mess but rather a freaking stranger who turned friend overnight and turned lover after two. I guess if the couple were strong enough to resist any of these external forces, then there is no reason for these people to have a chance but that aside, I will like to focus on these people who know that people are attached and yet made a move. What in the hell were you thinking? True enough, falling in love with someone is inevitable and uncontrollable but what makes you think that entitles you to make a move for the girl? She has a boyfriend, for god sake; can’t you just let them try to work things out? Surely, if you are so strong in your belief that she is the one for you, you can wait, right? And what makes you think that you are the one for her?
I know it’s really tough to pull yourself out of the trap but honestly, if you know that she has a boyfriend, please refrain from letting your feelings get carried away. You should have stopped when you saw the trap, not walk right into it. To these people, I hope you will be able to control yourself and not make a move for the girl. There are seriously a lot of options out there, all you need to do is turn your attention away before you sink deeper. I do know of people who are wary of such details and are able to control themselves out of respect not just for that relationship but more importantly, for yourself. To these people, I applaud them and wish them all the best in their future dates.
However, there are another group of people who just cannot control themselves, regardless of whether the girl has a boyfriend or not, they just think that they are the biggest f**k around and can do as they please. This behaviour is totally condemned in the DECC! And if you are such a person, you are an asshole and you have totally no regards for a proper relationship! I hope that your girlfriends/boyfriends will always be snatched away from you and when you finally find your true love, he/she rejects you outright! You will be the biggest loser at the end of the race, you f**k**g b**t**d! Pardon my language, I couldn’t control myself either.
Now and then, we see such cases all around us. I mean of course love is all about the right feelings and chemistry and stuffs like that. But seriously, if you are attached to a man or woman at the moment, will you want your partner to build up a relationship of immense feelings and chemistry with any guy or gal but not you?! That just seems politically incorrect. I believe that if a couple are so deeply in love with each other, there seem to be no reason for either one to stray because under my (DECC) Dating Ethical Code of Conduct, such behaviour is unacceptable. And I truly believe everyone should adhere to this Code of Conduct, I don’t care if you disagree because this is my territory and I’m the loudest here. If you can’t afford to even keep to this rule, you don’t deserve to be in a relationship. You are better off being single, or in an earlier entry, you are merely a player. You do not take relationships seriously, you are irresponsible and you are immature.
I guess it’s pretty hard for most guys out there because there are just far too many temptations out there and it’s hard not to grab one on impulse. But can you just control that itch and hide that beastly being in you and give it some careful thought before you make up your mind to dump your current girlfriend for this new bitch on the block? There are also guys out there who manage to break off a relationship by convincing themselves that the current girlfriend is not the one that they truly love. There is no chemistry or there is no more love between them…blah..blah..blah….all I can say is….BULLSHIT! Because about 80% or even more of the time, you were probably thinking of another girl when you made the decision. And this violates the DECC as well. Perhaps I should set a cutoff point at this time…..hmmm…how about 6 months? Thus, from now on, the rule states that once you initiate to end a relationship, you are not eligible to find another girl/guy in the next 6 months. This is to make sure that you didn’t make that decision on impulse for another girl…even if you did on impulse, you have to wait 6 months. Period.
Now, we shall move on to the external factors which cause a love triangle. We all know that sometimes it’s not the two parties that created this mess but rather a freaking stranger who turned friend overnight and turned lover after two. I guess if the couple were strong enough to resist any of these external forces, then there is no reason for these people to have a chance but that aside, I will like to focus on these people who know that people are attached and yet made a move. What in the hell were you thinking? True enough, falling in love with someone is inevitable and uncontrollable but what makes you think that entitles you to make a move for the girl? She has a boyfriend, for god sake; can’t you just let them try to work things out? Surely, if you are so strong in your belief that she is the one for you, you can wait, right? And what makes you think that you are the one for her?
I know it’s really tough to pull yourself out of the trap but honestly, if you know that she has a boyfriend, please refrain from letting your feelings get carried away. You should have stopped when you saw the trap, not walk right into it. To these people, I hope you will be able to control yourself and not make a move for the girl. There are seriously a lot of options out there, all you need to do is turn your attention away before you sink deeper. I do know of people who are wary of such details and are able to control themselves out of respect not just for that relationship but more importantly, for yourself. To these people, I applaud them and wish them all the best in their future dates.
However, there are another group of people who just cannot control themselves, regardless of whether the girl has a boyfriend or not, they just think that they are the biggest f**k around and can do as they please. This behaviour is totally condemned in the DECC! And if you are such a person, you are an asshole and you have totally no regards for a proper relationship! I hope that your girlfriends/boyfriends will always be snatched away from you and when you finally find your true love, he/she rejects you outright! You will be the biggest loser at the end of the race, you f**k**g b**t**d! Pardon my language, I couldn’t control myself either.
# posted by Dao : 10:11 pm
